Starting off with probably one of the biggest things to affect well being is that of worry. Worry is good in so much that an imminent situation that cause pause for thought increases the metabolism, blood pressure goes up and your body readies itself for a fight or flight. That’s not what I’m talking about.
I’m talking about the constant drip, drip, drip, of an irrational fear that is always there at the back of your mind or on your back, constantly reminding you that you cant jump out of your own skin, despite your best efforts to do so.
Worry is very much linked to fear. Fear of things that might come to pass. Human beings always fear something they don’t understand or that hasn’t happened yet. Holding onto fear becomes a worry. So you try not to worry and then you worry because you’re not worrying. It’s like a snake eating its own tail.
I was a chronic worrier for most of my life until one day I stopped running from my worries. I said “You know what, I have realised that 99.9% of my worries of what might happen haven’t happened.” It was a wonderful release. It was a matter of statistics. The longer I went worrying without something happening confirmed to my rational mind that there was nothing to worry about. The rational thought slowly outweighed the irrational thought that the longer I waited worrying about something to happen then at some point it would.
So why do we worry? Some of us are predisposed to worry, we can’t help it. Some of us worry because we are run down, lonely or simply left alone with our thoughts with nothing else to think about except out worries. What a ridiculous hamster wheel we choose to run in. Perhaps Alan Watts described it best:
Worry is a total waste of time. It doesn’t change anything. All it does it steal your joy of the present and keeps you very busy doing nothing. This thought process can transfer itself into our work as police officers. If not checked it can grow and grow paralysing your ability to do anything at all. Those little things become insurmountable mountain’s. You function on a day to day basis, responding to code one’s, ironically never giving a thought to your own safety but once back in the office. Once back in the comfort of your own company you slide back into that trough that sucks the present away from you preventing you making any decisions at all.
Don’t let worry consume you. Don’t worry that you are trying not to worry. If you finally conquer yourself not to worry, don’t be surprised at the peace you find. Allow yourself the peace you’ve a right to. No Worries!