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Over the last month or so I have attempted to describe the various things that make up well being through my own eyes of 18 years as a police officer. No one gets it right all the time but that is not what is important. For everything is a journey which, takes time and effort. If you remember I described my own journey as a boat drifting on the water and what that signified to me.

So what have I learnt and hopefully spur you on to think about you’re own well being?

Well, the first thing I have learnt is that what ever you want in life takes an effort on your part. The most successful athletes are born with talent know no doubt, but if they didn’t train for six hours a day, they would not achieve the success they do. It’s about responsibility of self. If want to stop smoking then I have to stop. If I want to be an elite cyclist then I have to get out on my bike and train. If I want to be happy then I have to stop doing all the things that make me unhappy and seek out the things that do. It all takes effort.

The second thing that I have learnt is perspective. Decide what is important to you and discard the rest. You see, chasing things that in the short term provide happiness are ultimately futile. Like the sugar rush of a cyclist taking an energy gel before a climb will no doubt help the rider up that hill. But at the top, the sugar levels crash and the rider feels worst than they did before they started the climb never to finish the race.

And it takes time to realize just what is important. What was important, as a teenager will not be important now.

Thirdly is NOW. Its no good letting the past dictate your now. You see it may be useful to use the past as a sign post to now but don’t live in the past. Nor look to the future too much. Because the future is not now and right now that is where you are and will always be. To live anywhere else but in the now is simply doing a disservice to you. By now I don’t mean enjoying the material things that have no value but to fully experience life right now because that moment will never again repeat itself.

Finally, it’s about YOU. You weren’t born into this world you were born from it. You don’t live in this universe you are a part of it just as much as the trees and the stars. And when you leave this world you go back to it.

You are as important to the universe as the matter contained within, as important as the galaxy stretching millions of light years across, as important as the particle a million times smaller than an atom..

So the key to all this is change. CHANGE how you see yourself. CHANGE how you live at this very moment. CHANGE yourself to follow what is important. CHANGE and take responsibility for yourself.

The next set of blogs will concentrate on leadership, in particular with regards to disciplined service.


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